Introduction and Overview
By Sherry Allchin and www.BiblicalCounselingCenter.org For: _______________________________________________________________ Desired Behavior Benefits of Obedience Consequences of Disobedience
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Chores
For: Your Child’s Name Below are multiple examples in each of the five categories. Customize this chart for your own child, adapting it to age and specific desired goals. Remember that correction is more profitable than just punishment, so consequences must be constructive and appropriate. Desired Behavior Benefits of Obedience Consequences of Disobedience
Room cleaned Dish duty Trash duty Lawn mowed Laundry folded 1. Personal satisfaction Training for life Commendation by parents Friends over 1. Denial of privileges until all chores completed Extra chores assigned Bible study- laziness/diligence Memorize Col 3:23,24
General Obedience
Promptness to obey Acknowledgment of parental requests Cheerful participation in family projects 2. Personal satisfaction, happiness No rod of correction Harmony, unity, peace in home Joy to the Lord, parents, teachers 2. The rod of correction Privileges denied Memorize Prov 3:11, 12 Memorize Prov 15:20, 29:15
Cooperation
Respect and concern for others at home or school Teamwork in family projects or activities 3. Personal satisfaction and maturity Training for life Usefulness to God and others Friendships grow Others help you later 3. Isolation from family or team Loneliness, lost friendships Poor work ethic patterns Essay on “Why I Should Cooperate with my Team” Memorize Prov 18:24 Memorize Rom 12:3-21
Character Development
Honest, Trustworthy Truthful, Transparent Dependable, Flexible Devotion to God, Family Attentive to others, listens Humility, Forgiving 4. God is glorified Parents are honored Increased maturity leads to increased privileges Independence from parents and growing dependence on God 4. Lack of trust by parents, others Loss of good friends Privileges denied, immaturity Memorize Psalm 1
Memorize Prov 1:2-9
School Work
Homework completed on time and done well Regular attendance 5. More play time Good grades Training for life 5. No play until all completed today and play time deducted in equal proportion tomorrow 1 hr. late=I hr. off tomorrow’s 1 day late=1day grounding Memorize Php 4:13, Pro 6:6-11